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Introduction

In “Surrounded by Narcissists,” Thomas Erikson applies his color-coded behavioral system (from Surrounded by Idiots) to a much darker personality type. For an entrepreneur like you – who is the “source of all value” and driven by an ethical vision – this book serves as a vital defense manual. It helps you distinguish between healthy confidence and the destructive manipulation of a true narcicisst.

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1. Defining the Narcissist

Erikson clarifies that while many entrepreneurs have “Red (driven) or “Yellow” (charismatic) traits, narcissism is a clinical lack of empathy.

The Grandiosity

They believe they are superior not through work or value creation, but by inherent right.

The Lack of Empathy

They cannot grasp the “benefit all parties” mindset. To a narcissist, someone must lose for them to win.

The need for “Supply”

They require constant admiration and will drain the energy of those around them to get it.

2. The Manipulation Tactics (The “Red Flags”)

As you build your brand, Erikson warns you to watch for these patterns in potential partners or employees:

Love Bombing

In the beginning, they will over-praise your vision and “chemistry” to gain your trust.

Gaslighting

They will make you doubt your own market awareness or facts to maintain control.

The Victim Card

When held accountable for poor performance, they shift the blame to others or claim they are being “persecuted.”

3. Protection Strategies for the Entrepreneur

Since your brand is your “vision,” you must protect it from people who want to hijack your success.

The “Grey Rock” Method

If you must deal with a narcissist, become as uninteresting as a grey rock. give short, factual, non-emotional answers. Don’t share your creative “source” with them

Set Ironclad Boundaries

Narcissists hate rules. Establish strict contracts and “Blue” (analytical) protocols for all business dealings.

Trust your Gut (and the Data)

If the “chemistry” feels too good to be true, or if their actions consistently contradict your ethical drive, Erikson advises cutting ties immediately.

4. Narcissism vs Healthy Self-Esteem

Erikson makes an important distinction that resonates with your journey:

Healthy Confidence

(Like yours) is based on competence, creativity, and adding value to the world. It is inclusive.

Narcissism

Is a “hollow shell.” It is based on a fragile ego and requires the devaluation of others to survive.

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Why this fits your Vision

Your goal is to benefit all parties involved. A narcissist is the “anti-entrepreneur” in this regard, as they only benefit themselves. By mastering Erikson’s insights, you protect your notebooks, pens, and clothing brand from being drained by toxic collaborators.